I800

So I’m even confused by all of this immigration paperwork but one more step was completed over the weekend and that was to mail our I800 to USCIS.  We received our I800A approval which gave Holt the OK to give us the Article 16 paperwork that we needed for our I800.  It makes my head spin but one more step closer to our son!

I find myself more and more sitting back and looking at the time going by and wondering what our life will be like with the four kids all with us.  I wonder how well RJ will adjust and how long we will be just chilling at home until he is ready to take on some activities outside our home.  I’m guessing a good six months on being on the down low will be necessary for him to adjust, bond and learn the language before we would attempt any major outing.  We’ve decided homeschooling him will probably be the best choice for the first year.  With his age being a little unknown and being so delayed we think he will really need the one on one with mommy until we can better grasp his needs.  Plus, we’re not sure to what extent his medical care is going to be and we may be on the road a lot for awhile.  I’m looking forward to having that time with him to bond and hopefully help him begin to feel safe and secure.  I had a lovely dream about him a few nights ago that he came home and he loved me.  I know that seems strange to many people who have not adopted but it’s not always how it goes and I so badly want him to love me.  The older the child and the more trauma they’ve gone through the harder it is for them to attach and love.  I’m going to hope that was a dream God sent to calm my fears and anxiety as every day that goes by is another day we have to make up in our lives with him.

Again, thank you for following along our journey with us.  We can’t wait to share our son with you!!